Check out the advice given to cheaters to help them hide their affairs. Take note and see if your husband or wife is doing anything like this so you can see if they are having an affair or not!

• Not covering your tracks well enough.
You need to cover your tracks when cheating. From having an airtight affair alibi to making sure to use WinClear if you are using your home pc, not hiding your affair properly will get you caught cheating. Take care to look in the following areas for evidence of your affairs, coat and pants pockets, purses, briefcases or vehicles. Be sure to remove obvious items that belong to a woman/man or are from unfamiliar hotels, restaurants or night clubs. Check the passenger car seat—did you adjust the seat for your lover? Look for items left behind in the car such as: lipstick, lipstick or make-up marked tissue, hair pins, paper with unfamiliar information, pen, glasses or other items that don’t belong to either you or your significant other.
• Going to your secret lover’s home.
Never go to your lover’s home (unless they are completely single and free from the ties of marriage and/or a serious relationship.) If they get caught by their significant other, chances are your spouse will also find out. If you plan on travelling to meet your lover, you’ll want to check the mileage on the odometer and make sure your alibi covers the distance you had to travel.
• Calling your new companion from your home phone and/or your cell phone.
Since you don’t want your lover’s number to appear on your cell phone history or call display or phone records, make all calls to your lover from work or payphones. It’s a hassle but will prevent you from getting caught cheating. Getting a new or another cell phone is also good, but make sure to hide it well and keep the ringer(including vibrate) off. Don’t hide this secret cell phone in obvious places like your purse, briefcase, pocket, car trunk, car compartments, under the seat, or behind the visor. Hide it at work, in the garage, in the air vents, somewhere where it won’t be found.
• Giving your new friend your home phone number or real name.
Always use an alias for your affairs. When responding to personal ads or creating online dating ads, make sure to create a whole new identity that mirrors you, except the details are changed enough to not identify you. Your occupation, your name, your neighbourhood all need to be different that actual so you don’t get caught.
• Not keeping a low profile when you are out with your lover.
You would be surprised how many people know you and/or your spouse, who unbeknownst to you may see you lavishing inappropriate attention on your new companion in public. If you are going to have an overnight or hotel encounter, drive at least 75 miles away from your residence. Driving such a distance might arouse suspicion, so make sure you already have a valid reason to be staying overnight or driving so far.
• Secret dating without a schedule.
Try to set up a regular schedule of ‘dates’ with your lover. If your spouse expects you to be out of town for business overnight every Wednesday, he/she will not suspect anything when you maintain this schedule and include your new friend in your overnight stays. Make sure you don’t change the way you go out on your dates. Don’t carry new clothes. Don’t stop complaining about having to go out again. Don’t start getting nervous or excited before you go. Make sure you don’t bring anything new home from your date.
• You become confident in your ability to deceive your spouse
The longer your affair lasts, the more likely you will get comfortable and forget that your affair is supposed to be “secret love affair”. Make sure to keep following the steps needed to hide your cheating.
• You tell your friend(s) about your affair.
Make sure you don’t tell a soul about your affair, including your best friend(s). All it takes is for one of them to tell someone else and before long, you’ll be confronted. Also, make sure nothing changes about your behaviour at work or at home.
• Making promises to your lover.
Make sure you don’t make promises you can’t keep to your lover. Don’t tell your secret lover that you are going to leave your husband or wife for them, unless you really are. Most affairs don’t result in new marriages/long term relationships with the lover, but that doesn’t stop people from making promises. False promises will quickly lead to bitterness and the desire for your secret lover to wreck your marriage, just so they can have you to themselves.
Here are some other behaviors that a cheating husband or wife will exhibit. Make sure none of these describes you!
-They seem less comfortable around you and is “touchy” and angers easily.

-They lose attention to the activities in the home.

-Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

-They have a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

-They have a “glow.”

-Atypical behavior.

-They are frequently gone longer than stated.

-They are more difficult to reach by phone.
People have affairs and cheat on their husbands and wives for many reasons. If you are married and want to have an affair, talk to your partner!

- He/she starts telling lies for no reason.
- He/she starts coming home at unusual times and refuses to give any rational explanation.
- He/she suddenly starts exercising or going to the gym.
- He/she buys a whole new wardrobe of fancy and flashy clothes.
- He/she buys a new perfume/cologne.
- He/she starts a new diet.
- He/she suddenly changes his/her driving pattern.
- He/she buys new hot/sexy underwear.
- He/she starts spending more money without giving any explanation.

Another site gives you 46 ways to tell if your partner is cheating. Take a look at this list and see if your husband or wife is cheating!

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn’t let you know.

He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes “accusatory,” asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, “Do you think it’s possible to love more than one person at a time?”

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work – but supposedly worked on those days.

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

26) Spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress’s house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband’s shirt.

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy” and easily moved to anger.

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

40) She has a “glow” about her.

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

42) He sneaks out of the house.

43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed

44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

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If you want to have an affair but don’t want to get caught, you have to be diligent and follow certain rules for having an affair.

Affair Tips was created to provide married and frustrated people such as yourself, affair tips and advice for having an affair and not getting caught. Here are some links you’ll want to read right away, if you don’t want to get caught cheating!

1. Affair rules for not getting caught
2. 10 Tips for online cheating
3. Use these condoms when having an affair.
4. Using a hotel for an affair? Read this first!
5. Tips for having an affair with the neighbor

Using the information in these affair links won’t guarantee that you won’t get caught, but it will make it much harder to catch you cheating. Just remember if you are questioned about having an affair, DENY EVERYTHING!

Good luck!